Intuition:  For most people the first sign warning sign of infidelity is that sick feeling deep within that makes them ask the question “Is my Spouse Cheating?” (This would not be true if a person is prone to jealousy and suspicion by nature.)   There are deep emotional and spiritual ties in marriage which somehow provide insight that is often unexplainable.

Change in level of affection:  A second common sign is a change in level of affection and interest.  A spouse that is unfaithful occasionally exhibits a change in level of interest and affection. This change can be in either direction – up or down.  The level of affection and interest could go down if a spouse is involved with someone else but occasionally guilt will cause a spouse to over compensate as well.  Proceed with caution because there are many factors that affect a spouse’s emotions such as work, stress, job security and self esteem.

Pattern Changes:     If there is a change in work habits or patterns, it may be a warning sign.  Everyone has heard the old adage, “I’m working late,” before but there are other changes that may be indicators as well.  Changes in work schedule which could include trips during the week end or just a longer work schedule.  Sometimes the change may be innocent and result in normal changes in life brought on by age and circumstances.

Secrecy:  A sudden move toward secrecy is another common sign.  Some of these signs are a spouse who never had a lock on his/her cell phone and all of a sudden does.  A few of these indicators are a new password on the computer or email accounts, a new credit card or bank account.  Suspicious Internet activity can also be a warning sign.

Ask yourself:  

a.            What specifically has caused concern?

b.            How long has this been going on?

c.             What has been done to find out the truth?

d.            What is the cost of not knowing the truth? Emotionally? Physically? Financially?

 

Remember these are only warning signs and not proof of anything. If your spouse is having an affair, you need the assistance of a confidential professional Private Investigator.  When nothing but the truth will do, call us!